Why clingy is bad

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Being Oneself. In a healthy relationship, both partners need to accept each other's weak points or quirky sides. They should be true to themselves and true to each other. It depends what your relationship is like. If you're "kind of" in a relationship, you don't want to be that person who's clinging onto that person who really doesn't want much to do with you. Independence is attractive.

People love other people who can share time with them but not have to be together all the time. If you're already in a relationship, clinginess might create jealousy issues, which usually pushes people away. The only possible exception is if your SO is in the small percentage of people who love when their partner is jealous and needy. When you're clingy, you tend to forget about yourself and your necessary mental space. You need to focus on your own studies, hobbies or activities.

Does your partner constantly post about you guys? Have they been grilling you about a person standing in the background of a picture you posted four years ago? According to Marin, this might be a sign of clingy behavior.

The trick, Marin explains, is about understanding your limits as a couple. For you, a night out might seem like a chance to let off steam and catch up with friends — for them it could translate to a night home worrying on the couch. Martinez said it could go the opposite way as well. For people that value alone time something that is very important for anyone in a relationship , this can present a difficult situation.

This is one of those signs that on a surface level appears like just an inconvenience — picture a puppy following you from room to room — but is actually veering more toward sinister. Showing up uninvited, Marin explains, is a sign that the behavior might be more controlling than clingy.

This type of behavior is a big red flag, Marin says, and could be indicative of coercive control.